You forget yourself

Have we ever thought that, our own success can teach us principles of being successful? Read this article...

SUCCESS is a buzz word in today's fast track world. We are running since morning till night in search of success. Lot of pages have been written on this most important ingredient of our self esteem. Lot many philosophies and ideologies revolve round this but, the truth is, success is having different definitions for all of us in different situations of our life.

I read a book recently where the writer pointed out the important point; We succeed in every moment. Even rising live in the morning and getting to bed again after facing the entire day is the success.

So, success is not having a fixed definition. It varies. In childhood, getting that win in street game was the success and, scoring first division in class tenth got to another level of success. Getting a good job, married to a loving partner, starting a family and...the list is endless. All these are success.

During this uphill journey, it is natural to get breathless phases where one seems to be sliding back, and difficult to continue it. We loose motivation. We loose the stamina. We feel ungrounded.

We look towards somebody who can give us the oxygen of motivation, a hand to hold our hand, a slight push, a jerky pull, we look around.

In this quest, we often start looking towards our failures. We start analysing it, lingering with our pain associated with those failures and, stuck. Either such failures induce the feeling of destruction of self belief or help us to get the link which triggered that failure. But, I have often found that, it sucks lot of energy and thus re-start becomes difficult many times.

It's good to check the association in such times. People around you, effect your way of thinking a lot. It's always advisable to be in the association of the positive thinkers by way of, being with the mentor, coaching, seminars, books, videos etc.

In this quest, we often leave behind a most important MOTIVATOR...the 'I', myself.

We have been programmed since our childhood that, one must learn from own failures and, success of others. That is why we are suggested to read the life stories of the successful people. It is not wrong but, there is a great charge on interpreting one's own success. Hence, we seldom hear the success stories of our parents, our real heroes and role models. Many a times, telling own success is considered as boastful. This pattern is ingrained deep in mass consciousness. Hence, we want to be like somebody.

Again, there is nothing wrong in it. Being inspired by somebody is a good thing.

But, we fail to inspire ourselves by revisiting our own success stories. In deep sub-conscious, we are conditioned to see our failures only. Few occasions are there when we are able to see our own success.      

Many books have been written where one is asked to write our blessings. How difficult it becomes to write our blessings? How much empty feeling we get as if nothing is good in life especially when we pass through that grey phase of life and asked to count on our blessings?

Here, I want to put on surface, a point of revisiting and learning from own success too. It gives lot of meaning to self. It improves self esteem. It improves your relationship with yourself. You start appreciating your own power. And, please note, it is not an arrogance, boastfulness, self showcasing. It is simply witnessing your own power. Recognizing the power in you. Honouring your own behaviour.

It is a challenge with the human mind to see similarity in two distinct situations. This is human psychology.

Recently, I was training a group of budding professionals on professional behaviour. The topic was on, how to recognize and go beyond the challenges in profession. How to generate self confidence with your own power to get over those challenges? There were many points into this discussion and one was; the own belief of being able to come out successfully.

Facilitating this idea, process of finding similarity in two distinct situations help.

I asked to recall one incidence from the past where they overcame a situation which they felt was difficult and they found themselves clueless. All the participants wrote one incidence each, and those incidences were overwhelming.

I would like to quote one incidence of a participant where he faced all the adversities due to the death of his father in early childhood. He paid the fee of his engineering by doing all sorts of work and earned good grades in his course. Now, he got a brake with such a renowned company to start his career.

Now, can this situation help him to understand his own potential in future if, he finds himself unsupported, blocked and clueless? Situations in the future will present in different shapes and sizes but, the belief on his own power thorugh his own story can be used to motivate, if, he finds himself in lack of it.

There are many situations, where, if, we can see the underlining quality we exhibited, and could decode that situation, I am sure, nothing can be a good motivator more than our own realization and power in us.

So, the key is; identify yourself in past experience, bring out the outlining strength you exhibited, think on, exercise your think tank on how current situation can be improved by exhibiting same self confidence.

Believe! you are the power...you are empowered to face all that is coming your way and, draw the newer dimesions of your own wisdom.

Have a week of self exploration...

Anurodh

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